30 Questions to Ask Before Hiring a Homebirth Midwife

30 Questions to Ask Before Hiring a Homebirth Midwife

 

Having a homebirth can be a nerve-wracking experience when trying to plan it out. It can be even more stressful when trying to find a midwife to assist in your homebirth.

The main thing to keep in mind is that this is your birth experience. If the midwife has a different philosophy than you, or is going to make you do things you’re just not comfortable with, look for a different midwife.

I lucked out with my midwife. She was the first, and only, midwife I interviewed. She and I immediately clicked. A few of my friends had delivered their babies with her and recommended her, so I set up an interview.

She agreed with my philosophies on pregnancy and birth. I made it very clear that I wanted no interventions unless absolutely necessary. I didn’t want any ultrasounds, Doppler usage, or any sort of tech used to monitor my baby. I was going to trust my instincts, my body and my midwife’s exams.

I delivered a very healthy baby girl, at home, in water. I labored with her for only 2 hours and had zero complications. My midwife watched as my husband assisted in delivering our baby girl – which is what we wanted. We wanted our midwife to be our backup in case something happened, but otherwise, we wanted to have an unassisted birth.

For those of you who are trying to come up with interview questions for your midwife, here is a list of questions I had prepared for interviewing my prospective midwife.

1. What sort of training have you had? (Lay midwives are often very qualified, if not more qualified than state-certified midwives, but you should still as each and every midwife what sort of education, whether direct training or through a school, she has had.)

2. How long have you been practicing?

3. How many births have you attended?

4. Do you have a backup midwife or OB/GYN?

5. Are you comfortable with women going past their due dates?

6. How comfortable are you with delivering breech babies and/or multiples?

7. What are your philosophies on birth, labor, and delivery?

8. What are your philosophies on Dopplers/ultrasounds?

9. What is your philosophy on eating and drinking during labor?

10. Are you comfortable with water births? How many have you attended?

11. Do you use a Doppler at all during pregnancy or labor?

12. What prenatal tests/exams do you recommend doing?

13. Do you have hospital privileges, if so, where?

14. Do you believe in a “hands off” approach during labor and delivery?

15. Do you perform vaginal exams?

16. Will you provide breastfeeding support?

17. Do you cut the cord immediately, or wait until it has finished pulsing?

18. What is your opinion on hatting babies (putting a baby hat on the infant soon after birth)?

19. Do you know how to prepare a placenta for encapsulation or for raw consumption?

20. Are you comfortable with working with a doula if I choose to hire one?

21. How do you feel about inducing labor?

22. How many of your clients have had complications that required hospital care?

23. How many of your clients have ended up with c-sections?

24. How do you feel about episiotomies?

25. How do you feel about rupturing the membranes?

26. If I do require hospital care, will you stay with me?

27. Will I be separated from my baby after my home birth?

28. How do you feel about my family being present during the labor and delivery?

29. How much do you charge and can I set up a payment plan with you?

30. How many visits will I have with you before and after my baby is born?

Obviously these questions are patterned specifically for the birth plan that I had. You can change or omit these questions, depending on your own birth plan.

Just remember to find a well-educated midwife that is willing to work with you. If she’s not comfortable with some of your questions and philosophies, chances are, she’s not a proper fit for you.

 

What are some questions that you plan on asking your midwife? 

Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, and Yada, Yada, Yada

So much has been going on in my life lately that I really haven’t had the time (or energy) to post on the blog. The past few months have been such a roller coaster that I have been left trying to catch my breath and figure out where the hell I’m going to next.

Thankfully, life is finally getting back on track. There have been so many changes that have happened to my family and I over the last few months, that I cannot begin to cover them all in this single blog post, but I hope to reveal them all soon in future posts. But with life slowing down on the amount of punches its been throwing my way, I think I can safely say that I can ease back into my blogging routine.

And about that blogging routine…

I really have no intentions of earning a living from this blog. I never did. This blog was meant to be a place that I could divulge my thoughts and stories about my life and if people wanted to listen, then that’s groovy. When I write on this blog, I have a place in which I can share my heartaches and my accomplishments without running up my mother’s phone bill.

All that being said, I do like to be organized and I try to set goals for myself. With this blog, I want to try to maintain some semblance of a schedule that I can follow with my posts, that a way all of you lovely readers will have some sense of what days I’ll be blogging about what and what days I’m just going to go on random tangents (because I have a tendency to ramble…).

I plan on posting something on here most days, but I might have to skip an occasional day, depending on my work load and what my family has planned. Here is a rough schedule of the topics I plan to write about each day of the week:

Sunday: Couponing/Frugal Living/Weekly Goals & Accomplishments

Monday: Paganism/Parenting/Feminism

Tuesday: Herbalism/Natural Living/Pregnancy

Wednesday: My Shopping Hauls/Meal Plans

Thursday: Unjobbing/Working From Home/WAHM

Friday: Homesteading/Tiny Home Living/Gardening

Saturday: Homeschooling/Recipes

I know, I know, it’s kind of a cluster-fuck of a schedule, but it’ll give me a base to work with.

Something else I plan on doing is listing weekly goals and accomplishments. I used to do that on my old blog, The Frugal Hippie Housewife, and really enjoyed writing those posts, but I haven’t brought that idea over here, until now. Some of you might not care one way or another what my weekly plans are, but it’s something that gives me a bit of guidance on what my intentions are for the week and whether or not I am successful. If anything, it helps me develop better time management skills – something this working mother is constantly trying to perfect…

With mine and my family’s recent move to a farm in Missouri, I plan on having quite a lot to write about in the areas of gardening, homesteading, and our tiny home building plans. I’ll probably include some posts about our critters as we slowly add them to the farm, but that’ll be later on in the year.

So, what are some things YOU would like to see from this blog? This blog probably seems like it covers far too many topics, but I’m a woman of many interests and passions, so I can’t possible run enough blogs to cover everything that I love. 😉 Let me know what you’d like to see me write about and I’ll do my best to cover it!

Blessed Be!

Danie